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I am a thin, Harlem residing, Detroit born, master’s degree-having, 34-year old, divorced Black woman whose passport is on pimpin.When friends say that I’m the “type” White guys like, they are mostly referring to my small frame, education and breadth of travel. There is nothing about me that makes me a “safe” Black chick for White guys to holler at.I am a Black woman who dates the "rainbow." If you put every guy I was involved with in the past 10 years into one room (that group includes random dates, relationships, situationships and that one time I got married), you’d have a fabulous, multi-hued bouquet of masculine beauty.A kind, smart man who moves me, might be able to rock with me, regardless of race or ethnicity.I'm not on that ridiculous color blind train, I'm just an equal-opportunity dater.The vast majority of my Black girlfriends exclusively and purposely date Black men, so I get a lot of questions about my UN-friendly dating roster and most of those questions are about the white dudes. ” “Are you sure it’s not some jungle fever type thing? ” The answers to those questions depends on the guy– could be tan, pink or some combination.The White guy gets the short end of the stick in that situation too because he’s a sucka-ass plan B and doesn’t even know it.
It’s not fair to the Black woman, the White dude or Black men. If you’re running into Black dudes who are not worth a quarter, their behavior is not some genetic issue related to their ethnic background, they just aren’t the guys for you, for any number of other reasons.The other troubling statement I get from my Black girlfriends regarding dating White dudes is “You’re the type of Black girl White guys like. If there is one thing I know about heterosexual men, it is that regardless of their physical preferences, at the end of the day they just like women.I’ve seen White guys with a wide variety of Black women.Only once was it a fetish thing on the guy’s end, and I deaded that as soon as I was aware. Then there are two troubling statements that I often hear. In a minute, I’m about to be like you and find a White boy.” Ugh.Seeing specific movies is not a dating requirement for me. I find this to be problematic because everything about it is wrong.